... does it matter?
Where answers end!
I was in a session with my mentor; trying to explain.
Something had happened and I needed to make sense of it. I laid out the timeline, the context, my thoughts and my feelings.
I was sure that if I could just trace it all back far enough,
it would all click into place.
My mentor listened patiently.
Then he asked:
“Does it matter?”
At first, I didn’t know what to say.
The question felt almost dismissive.
But it wasn’t.
It was gentle.
Curious.
Disarming.
Because I trust this wise man,
I allowed his question to truly reach me.
And I was drawn to explore its deeper meaning.
Why do we need to understand everything?
Why do we dig so deep for reasons?
Weeks after that talk with my mentor, it became clear:
We often seek answers and reasons not out of curiosity,
but out of fear.
When we feel uncertain or overwhelmed,
we search for explanations like anchors.
If we can label an experience, we feel we can contain it.
If we know why someone acted a certain way, we think we can prevent it next time.
Our illusion is based on a simple logic:
If we can understand,
we can control.
But not everything is meant to be controlled nor understood.
There’s a difference between
- wanting to know in order to truly see what is happening and
- wanting to know so we can predict and manage any situation.
One comes from love.
The other from fear.
Real connection means being willing to meet the unknown in another person and in any situation in life. Again and again.
Not to master them,
but to witness them.
Not to keep them in a box,
but to be surprised, even amazed.
And of course this is also true for our relationship with life and this journey. We can spend years trying to make sense of what happened and why…
Or
we
can
meet
life
as
it
is:
surprising,
unfolding
and
often
unexpected.
Not to solve it, but to live it.
Let me ask you this, dear reader:
Are you seeking truth out of a longing for deep intimacy with your unique journey? Or are you, perhaps unknowingly, trying to control and reduce life to something manageable?
The answer might not delight you; but it could set you free and lead you toward an entirely new journey… an unexpected journey…
Счастливого пути,
Charlotte
